new year, same me

I know you've all been hanging for this second cliché post so it would be rude of me to not deliver it in a timely manner at the start of the new year.

Not only is it a new year, it's also a brand new decade. The beginning of the next incredible ten years of our lives. And can I also point out that, for those of you who may not have noticed already, this year is 20/20 which just absolutely has to mean that it's the year of clarity. The year we create the perfect vision and see things for exactly as they are - infinite possibilities.

If you read my last post you'll know that Twenty Nineteen was both the worst and best year in my life. It's the year I dedicated a lot of my time and energy into my own personal growth, the year I experienced the most financial challenges and the year I went through worst heartbreak. But above all of that it's the year that I will always hold close to my heart for forcing me to grow and transform into a person I am pretty damn in love with.

Although I don't want to change anything that happened over the last 12 months, I am also absolutely certain that I don't ever want it to be repeated so I have made a decision.

A decision to always follow the feels even when my head is trying to take the lead.

I like to think that I've always been a pretty intuitive person and I've done many "brave" things in my lifetime. There has however always been a little part of me that has had the natural self-preservation mode switched on and has stopped me from doing things because I was afraid that the outcome may not fall in my favour.

What I've been reminded of in the last 6 months is that the outcome is ALWAYS in my favour. Even when it doesn't feel like it at the time.

With that in mind I have made some goals for this year with the idea that I will keep chasing them with my full heart unless they stop feeling good. And I don't mean feeling scared to fail or out of my comfort zone, I mean "is this still what I really want?". In the past I have fallen into the trap of going so steadfastly after my goals that the actual reaching of them became more important to me than whether or not it was really what I truly wanted. I ain't about that life anymore.

I don't believe in resolutions per-say but I am all about goals and making a conscious decision to keep doing the things I love, change or stop the things I don't and embody a word that is going to help drive my decision making throughout the year.

My word for Twenty Twenty is RICH.

☀️ Rich in Happiness.
👯‍♀️ Rich in Connections.
🎶 Rich in Experiences.
🥥 Rich in Health.
💰 Rich in Finances.
♥️ Rich in Love.

This year is all about enRICHing my life in ALL areas. If it makes me richer, I'm in.

What exactly does that look like from a goals perspective, I hear you ask? Well, let me give you the d-low.

My main RICH goal for this year is finances. When people hear the word "Rich" when talking about money it often comes with the stigma of being greedy or selfish. Being rich, to me, isn't about buying flashy things, or impressing people, it's about living a life that makes me truly happy, and that allows me to have the impact I want to have in the world. In Twenty Twenty I am setting myself up financially so that I have 6 months of comfortable living costs set aside at all times. That will become my new "zero balance".

Next up I want to tell you all just how much I freaking LOVE music and how this was always meant to be a massive part of my life, yet somewhere along the track in the last few years I let it not be one of my priorities. Thankfully over the last few months I have rediscovered my absolute passion for all genres of music (big love to those of you who have paid a part in this… you know who you are), and I have been filling my eardrums (and heart) with so many tunes that I've missed over the last few years. Side note; as part of my rich in love goals, my dream guy is going to love music as much as I do. All music. And we are going to share a common distaste for heavy metal, electronic and DnB. But I digress.
Anyway, the point of this paragraph is that part of being rich in happiness to me is Music. Discovering new music, going to gigs, festivals and concerts, and spending my down time filling my cup listening to epic tunes.

You may have seen on the ol' socials that I was recently in Bali and I absolutely fell in love with the place. Another of my goals for this year is to get back there in the middle of the year for a month or 2 (or more...?). But the goal itself is less about the length of time or the place, and more about filling my experiences and connections cups up with adventures in different places, with friends, new and old.

This year I'm also going to keep moving more. Going on walks, hikes, adventures, trying new things - I'm feeling called to hit up some hip hop dance classes, actually. Over the last few months I've been listening to my body more and not forcing myself to do things I don't want to do, or denying myself things that I enjoy. And I'ma keep that shit up because I've never been happier.

And lastly my business direction is shifting. I'll still be coaching, in fact I will be ramping that up like never before because I literally love it more than anything, but I'm going to be working with men as well as women moving forward. Over the last few months of being back in the dating game I was reminded just how much I value honest, open conversations with men and that I want to help ALL people, not just fellow girl bosses. My main focus will still be life and mindset coaching but I will be putting more energy into the dating and relationship space. It's something I have been pulled towards since I first started coaching 4 years ago but I've resisted because I felt like there was a piece missing that I wasn't qualified to help people with – Heartbreak. Real, gut wrenching, heart-ripped-out-of-your-chest heartbreak. Well, the Universe heard my inner conflict and gave me the nudge (or should I say round house kick to the guts) that I needed to step the F up and own something that I am ridiculously passionate about.

What does this mean for my Business Buildhers Tribe? Absolutely nothing. That tribe of women are a huge part of my driving force and I still love the shit out of them. Many of them have also become some of my best friends and I wouldn't be the person I am today without them. I am also still crazy passionate about empowering and supporting women on their business journeys and that won't change. I still believe with my whole being that we are stronger together and that we shouldn't have to do anything alone. The membership site is still launching and the events will keep happening BUT I also have plans to do some collaborative mixed gender events aimed at bringing together like-minded socially conscious peeps who want to be change makers and really leave a positive impact in the world. Because THOSE are my kinda people.

Twenty Twenty is already delivering the goods and we are only 3 days in.

This year I'll be focusing heavily on my "keep" list. The list of things that I am going to consciously keep on doing.

✨Being present.
☀️Being excited.
✨Being happy.
☀️Being kind.
✨Being honest.
☀️Being vulnerable.
✨Being open to receive anything and everything that the Universe brings my way.

But above all else I know that if I'm as happy at the end of this year as I am right now, I've done things right.

Because this feeling that I feel right now is everything ♥️