it's all about me

I recently realised that I'm most inspired to write and get many ideas on things I want to say when I'm in the car listening to music. I'm not entirely sure whether it's the fact I'm very present and not distracted by social media and my phone when I'm driving, or it's because I'm not actually able to write or record content. Either way it got me thinking about the types of thoughts I feel most inclined to share when I'm deep in thought.

Turns out, they are not necessarily the positive vibes that I tend to share.

I've always liked to share my own thoughts, lessons and experiences but over the years I've battled with the whole notion to "stop making it all about you, Kylie". When you learn about business and marketing they constantly reiterate that it's about everyone else.

About what they want to hear.  Speaking to their problems, their desires, their interests.

So I would try to put myself in their shoes and imagine what they're thinking, feeling and struggling with and talk to that. Sure, it's possible and a successful way to run a business, but for the most part it just wasn't lighting me up. Creating content felt difficult and like I was having to force myself to get out of my own body and mind, and "be" other people.

When I am having conversations with people; friends, family, dates, clients - it's a lot about them. I genuinely love to connect with and hear other peoples stories and experiences. I like to hear about their journey and their lessons, and help to provide an outside view or perspective when appropriate.

But my platforms ARE about me. Not in an "I'm awesome, listen to me" way, but in a "these are my experiences, this is what I've learned and me sharing about it might be helpful to you". And I learned that it is quite literally part of my Human Design to share with you (or anyone who needs to hear it) about my life and experiences.

Whenever I have shared my more raw, vulnerable sides, and shared about the times when I've been struggling or going through a particular challenge, it gets the most engagement. At first that made me sad to realise that people connect and can relate more with the hard parts of life, but it also felt freeing to give myself permission to share those parts of me.

Because nobody is perfect. Nobody's life is free of challenges or "negative" emotions. We know that social media is only a glimpse into people's lives and nobody wants a feed full of depressing posts or trauma dumping, but the reality is that life is about polarity and that we are designed to feel and experience a full spectrum of emotions.

We can be incredibly grateful, yet still yearn for more.

We can be happy, yet also sad (anyone else start singing Ocean Alley when they read that?).

We can be excited and looking forward to something, but also anxious and nervous.

We can want something really badly, but also feel like we don't deserve it.

For all the happy, positive posts about peoples holidays, family, relationships, adventures and "wins", are an equal amount of things happening in the background that we don't know anything about – relationship issues, difficulties with family, financial hardships, work dissatisfaction, health problems, feelings of stress/loneliness/sadness/anxiety/depression.

So at risk of having potential dates or my future "person" read my posts, listen to my podcast or consume any content that I put out there, there will be more stories coming your way. And I'll no doubt talk soon about why it's mainly this aspect of sharing my experiences that makes me feel most uncomfortable.

It's all about me.

But also, it's about you.

The you that needs to hear it.

The you that might have had a similar experience or feeling, and felt alone.

The you that wants to be different, feel different, do more, be more… but isn't sure where to start.

I'm starting. I'm trying things. I'm experimenting.

For me.

But also for you.

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